Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Always the Last Pick

Regular readers of Fatherhood Matters will know that I am a regular viewer of the NBC show, Parenthood.  Learning parenting skills for an Aspergers child is a passion for me and the weekly Braverman family struggles resonate each week.

A quote tonight from Max Braverman (son who has Aspergers) regarding why he was reluctant to play during gym class was "I always get picked last!

I worry about that for my son, D.  But when I was younger, I was exactly the opposite - NEVER picked last.  I struggle to relate with my son's social struggles and that bothers me.  How can I help him?

This week he made a first step to call a classmate and invite him over for a play date.  The excitement on awaiting the call back and confirmation of a date (THIS SUNDAY) was palpable for D.  I am happy and very proud of my son.

Now I wait.  I am extremely nervous for him on Sunday.  I pray that it goes well.  I will be the chaperone (I think a movie and some pizza are on the agenda).  I was emotional watching the play date for Max Braverman on TV.  I can't imagine how I will contain myself on Sunday.

I can't imagine how hard it is for him to make a phone call. 
I can't imagine how hard it is for him to socialize at school. 
I can't imagine how hard it is for him to make friends.
I can't imagine feeling like I am always picked last.